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True stories are full of strange, intriguing details that the narrator doesn’t understand or can’t explain himself. Concrete expressions of feelings and thoughts felt in specific situations—happy or critical—represent as much truth as information about details of place and time, and connections to personal preferences or habits. In addition, unnecessary details that are not necessary for a story are also an indication of originality. So beware of stories with little detail and overflowing!
This is how you expose daily scams
You order a no-sugar lemonade (“Fanta zero”), but you look over the counter and think you realize that the bartender has poured a regular lemonade into the glass. Now “Is that really zero?” Instead of “This is a regular soda, right?” you ask. So you’re asking the opposite of what you really want. Because denial is associated with more emotional effort than affirmation. We also tend to explain what is right rather than admit that we are wrong.
7 tips for talking to potential liars
- Use the expect effect: Let the person you talk to understand that you are dealing with psychology, that you are influenced by lies, facial expressions and body language, and that you have a command of human nature. Leave relevant reading material visible.
- Note the inconsistencies: Is someone behaving noticeably different from the one you know? Laughter, voice, posture, language different from normal? Does someone speak very monosyllabic, otherwise gibberish in details, or is he an unusually talkative person who normally can barely part his teeth? What is not normal indicates tension in the other person – possible lies.
- Be ready: If you often have difficult conversations with someone (such as a tenant or landlord, boss or colleague, ex-wife or ex-husband), make a checklist: What are their speech, voice, posture, and other characteristics when relaxing? You will notice deviations more quickly and clearly.
- Ask test questions: Claim things you know are wrong or make suggestions in a question – and your interlocutor should know: “You lost a little” – in fact when your pants are tight or at the electronics store “The TV is said to have performed really well in the test” – when it really fails. First of all, you can see how important love of truth is for the interlocutor, and secondly, you can observe his behavior when lying: What is he doing? Does he fidget, play with his hair, or move on to other topics? He’ll probably do the same for other lies.
- Use Pavlov’s reflex: Nobel Prize winner Ivan Pavlov discovered that living things respond physically to important stimuli—just like a dog starts drooling when the dinner bell rings. For you, this means: Have a concrete suspicion, ask questions that will freeze a “perpetrator”, and that’s all! If office supplies disappear from the company, ask, “When was the last time you saw our hole punch?” The perpetrator will respond to the question: displaying deviant behavior in voice, language, and posture. Everyone else will remain calm.
- Make it easy for the liar to confess: First, build a personal relationship with him! Maintain eye contact, avoid aggression, laugh with him, mirror facial expressions and body language. Second, show understanding; act as if you have a similar value system, take the blame and with it the shame of the liar! Something like: “If the company handles staples and copy paper so carelessly, it should come as no surprise that we occasionally steal from underpaid employees…”
- References to a higher authority: If nothing helps, you can also “threat” with more intense controls, but you yourself are “innocent” about it. For example, when interviewing a job applicant, you claim that the manager is playing games by meticulously checking the information on candidates’ resumes. And you say that when buying a used car, your husband will want to have the car checked in his garage before signing the deal. Anyone who is hiding something should prick up their ears now and tell the truth to avoid an embarrassing reveal later.
Source : Blick
I am Dawid Malan, a news reporter for 24 Instant News. I specialize in celebrity and entertainment news, writing stories that capture the attention of readers from all walks of life. My work has been featured in some of the world’s leading publications and I am passionate about delivering quality content to my readers.
