Intimacy: If they want something, they have to ask for it

Some people think that if they have to ask their partner what they want in a moment of intimacy, it’s not funny. They don’t feel comfortable. However, there is nothing wrong with that.

If you want something, ask for it because your partner is not a mind reader, couples experts advise.

This is another myth romantic about relationships.

“Another person cannot meet all our needs or desires if we don’t say it,” says sexologist Ruth González.

Learn to communicate your needs as a couple core for its proper functioning.

Adjust your expectations about this topic “my partner knowing does not mean that I must know what I need at all times”.

Underlined, on his Instagram account (@ruth_sexologa): “What we usually do is wait for others to guess, and if they don’t, we get angry.”

I can’t imagine the changes for the better in a relationship produced by asking your partner for what you want.

However, they must demand it in a way concrete and positive, without threats. “Instead of saying, ‘You never say nice things to me,’ you can say, ‘I wish you would compliment me more often.’

González offers other examples: “I would like to you will express how you feel more often”, “I would like you to kiss me goodnight before going to bed”, “to tell me I love you more often” and “to tell me how your day was”.

“Advice”

On the other hand, experts recommend it there are phrases to keep in mind daily in the relationship, which could help you keep the flame of love alive. What are those phrases? we tell you.

“I love you”, “I love being with you”, “your opinion is very important to me”“I recognize your effort”, “the most important thing is our relationship” and “I’ve been happy since I’ve been with you”, to name just a few.