“My girlfriend is clearly an alcoholic, but denies it”

dear community

I wouldn’t be writing it to strangers on the internet if I hadn’t already made countless attempts to make conversation…

Absolutely: I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years, so in the middle of the Corona madness 2 years ago I noticed that she pours herself a glass of wine almost every day in the evening. When asked about it, she said she needed it to unwind as there was no more after work beer, no chatting with office colleagues, etc.

At that time I could still understand it, I drank a glass now and then. In the meantime, however, one glass of wine has become a whole bottle. And that 4, 5, sometimes even 7 times a week. At first she invited people along as an alibi to justify her drinking (“We do have guests!”), but now she only drinks in front of the TV.

She does not find her behavior questionable, nor does she see the need to change it. When asked about that, she yells at me that I’m the one who has a problem with that, not her. She would have everything under control.

I also tried to talk to her family about it but she didn’t like it at all and after a phone call to her mother she even forbade me to ever talk about her ‘behind her back’ with her family again. Her family doesn’t get through to her either and she denies it to them as well.

I don’t know what to do. How do you help someone who doesn’t want to be helped? Do you have experience and can you give me some advice?

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