“My wife cheated on me – should I deal with it?”

Hey

I recently learned from a friend that my wife was cheating on me. She doesn’t know that I know. Apparently it happened at a party where this acquaintance happened to be present. It was a very different group of friends than we usually move around in – which is probably why she felt safe. From what I understand it was probably a one time thing and they didn’t exchange numbers or anything. So of course I’m not sure, that’s just the information that has come to me so far.

But that would also explain why my wife didn’t say anything and why she’s honestly no different than usual. I don’t think there were any big feelings involved or she would act differently?

It all happened a month ago, I only found out a few days ago. I really haven’t noticed any changes in behavior or anything like that with her.

Now I wonder: should I let it rest completely or should I tackle it anyway? I think I could live with that if it really was just a mistake and that’s why she doesn’t tell me at all. At some point I’ll probably just forget…

But I don’t want to make it bigger than it could be by tackling it. I’m not sure what to do. Have any of you ever been in a similar situation? What have you done and what advice can you give me?

Thank you very much.

PS: We are both in our mid thirties and have been married for 3 years.

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