“I am extremely afraid of being cheated on…”

Hello all

My boyfriend Tim and I have been together for a long time and generally things are going well. But there is something that continues to bother me: jealousy.

I actually trust him, but there are times when I’m overwhelmed with jealousy. For example, when Tim spends a lot of time with a male friend he has known since childhood. I can’t help but feel awkward, even though I know this friendship is purely platonic.

I also sometimes get jealous on Insta when Tim receives messages from other men or shares photos of him with other people – without me. I feel like my jealousy is taking over my thoughts and I’m afraid that one day he might be interested in someone else, even though he keeps telling me how much he loves me.

This jealousy is putting a strain on our relationship and I want to learn to deal with it.

Do you have similar experiences or can you give me tips on how to deal with jealousy in a relationship? I don’t think I need to go to therapy for that, it’s not too bad that I spy on him and/or write every 10 minutes about what he does when he’s not with me. It is precisely this feeling that plagues me, that there could be something… Actually, I am not an insecure person, but somehow I am in this issue. I’ve never been cheated on either. But I know a lot of people who have already experienced this and I feel so sorry for them every time because I think it’s so bad. I’m just so scared that this will happen to me too.

I would be very grateful for your help. Thanks for your advice!

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