I am not a Catholic. I find the hosts disgusting, and I wasn’t approved either (at the time I wished for it with joy – with pocket money my Catholic friends received for communion). So when I hear “Madonna” I think of an 80s pop star. Not to the Mother of God, the Most Holy. But that’s what my post today is about.
It’s about Madonna’s whore complex. I first came across a term coined by Sigmund Freud a few years ago, but I’ve been familiar with the concept since I was a teenager. Since the boys stopped finding girls “creepy” and suddenly found them interesting. And they began to sort. Namely, whether they will be suitable for sexual intercourse or not. Only the boys formulated it a little more vulgarly.
However, with the end of puberty, this evaluation of women and their bodies does not seem to end. I still hear such phrases from men: “I’m cool – but noumea for the night.” Most often, the object of a one-time desire is a woman who opens up.
The opposite of a one-night stand is a saint. A woman you respect, with whom you can imagine a future, maybe even children. But to have children, you have to sleep together, and Madonna is a virgin. Because of the complex, physical attraction to the beloved saint develops with difficulty.
Of course, in our society the complex is not so extreme. However, the plan for the complex of the Madonna of the Whore has taken root in our minds. Positive female key figures in the media are either Madonnas or bombs. The fact that my generation grew up on a constant stream of pornographic content creates further confusion in the crotch – and in the heart.
So, logically, we divide into misogynistic, unrealistic categories, while at the same time puzzling over how to spin between the poles. Sex on the seventh date, but a kiss on the first, or he’ll think I’m a hypocrite.
It’s tiresome. And it ends up hurting us all. Those who can no longer love and desire, and those who are stereotyped. Of course, physicality and love can be separated. But if the two are no longer possible together, we have a problem.