Well, there is definitely one parallel: you. You are the same person, and if you have ever been involved with a narcissist, there is good reason to be skeptical about your mate selection mechanisms. Have
Did you understand what exactly attracted you then in this person? With what promises, explicit and implicit, did he deceive you? How did you say things over and over? Why did you allow yourself to be mistreated and find an important mission in this?
Narcissists – men and women – are masters at winning over others and making them dependent on them. Because they themselves depend on the fact that there is someone next to them whom they can constantly humiliate in order to increase their low self-esteem. They need someone to blame for everything to get rid of this feeling. The amazing charm and irresistible sexuality inherent in them are a pure trump card. None of this comes from the heart, it’s all fake.
You may not have learned from your last toxic relationship and are still vulnerable to these men and their perceived approval. But you can do it just as well with really
a nice, really great guy who treats you well and seriously.
Only in an honest conversation will you learn about your own and his shortcomings. Ask him about his self-esteem, his childhood, his
trauma and how you deal with it, and tell us about yourself. You will soon realize that you are dealing with someone who is too
breaks down into a loving, stable relationship.