Meyer advises that families don’t want separation: it’s guaranteed to make you desperately unhappy.

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There are two questions to answer here: first, why does your wife and everyone else say such nonsense, and second, why does it impress you.

1. Most people hate change. They want things to stay the same because it gives them security and comfort. Of course, being abandoned is unpleasant, but it is your desire to end the relationship, and if your wife truly loved you, she would respect that. Instead, she resorts to emotional blackmail to paralyze you. This alone is a reason for separation!

2. Those around you obviously have an old-fashioned and patriarchal morality that puts the preservation of the family structure above all else and completely disregards the well-being of the people involved – even when violence is involved. The main thing is that the family remains “intact”. It is time to abandon this distant and hostile view of life and lovingly support developing people. Even if it worries and irritates us
our own hypocrisy. There will probably be people around you who would like to break up, but don’t dare. And they calm themselves down by talking about “family destruction.”

3. Now to you: So you want to go. And don’t leave. This dissonance creates enormous stress and can only be resolved by actually leaving. In any case, the desire for this will no longer disappear.

You will not be able to avoid offending your wife and others and not experiencing all the feelings associated with this. Of course, you can also do what is expected of you, which is okay. But then you are guaranteed to be desperately unhappy. And in the end I also got sick.

Source: Blick