Obsession in a couple: Warning signs!

Being in love is experiencing emotions and feelings that bring you closer to a state of full happiness.

Finding love is usually something nicepositive and miraculously which implies sharing a common life with another person and a commitment that is always based on respect and love for the other.

However, there are people who eventually transform that feeling of love in a couple in obsession with another person.

Then, the relationship goes from something healthy and positive to something harmful and poisonous. How do you know if your partner is possessed?

Psychologist Nefthaly Montenegro Ricardo talks about some signs that will tell you if your partner is possessed or not.

The first is to know that there is a line between jealousy and respect for space. For example, “when we talk about respect for spaceis when I as a couple have the ability to understand that you need time and space for to enjoy with you alone or with your group of friends or associates, whether they’re with your partner or not, but there’s trust.”

But, continued with jealousy, “when I do not allow you, under any circumstances, a condition for independent living except for that couple so you can connect with another person, here jealousy turns into a state of monitoring your movements”. That is, often asking where you are, probing you for decisions about what you want to do.

“So the first thing is the difference between zeal and respect for spacewhen I respect your space, there is no obsession, but when I start to be jealous and control you, that is the first symptom of jealousy and obsession,” psychologist from the Integra Panama Center (@integrapanamacp)

Another sign that there might be obsession It’s when you “start to feel frustrated because the person is not meeting your expectations or not meeting what you want the person to do.”

For example, “a couple’s relationship is based on justice and equality, and in which both of you can propose, but there is an obsession already when you propose and your expectations are that the partner must accept what you say… if it is not fulfilled, he is frustrated that he does not satisfy and becomes an obsession, because there is a question of control in decision-making and thinking “.

This means that there is obsession in the couple when the person loses control what you thinkhis actions, when he controls, when he often calls or sends messages, when your life revolves around your partner and “a destructive phase is formed, which can lead to depression, there is already the topic of hatred, anger and revenge”.

A person who exercises obsession will have poor anger control, little emotional management and can even lead to depression problems, and these three will manifest through verbal and physical aggression. In the most difficult cases, they can harm the most important thing in a couple, which is “life”.

Actions

If you see any early signs, you can seek help from a an individual or a pair of professionalsbut the person has to accept that they have an obsessional problem and agree to seek help, if the opposite happens, “they have to make themselves a priority and they have to know that they have to get out when they lose control.”

“It is important to emphasize that the murders take place in Couple relations when you already see that the symptoms have gone to the extreme where help was not sought in time. There are others who ask for help, file a complaint and are not taken into account, so they go to such extremes,” he shares.