Fear of smelling bad: why many women dislike oral masturbation

Schiftan says the reason for the uncertainty is that young women repeatedly come into negative contact with their vaginas. “Either because they itch, bleed, or because they’re told it’s scary to touch their fingers.” The expert says that, unfortunately, girls are often not able to devote themselves to their bodies in an unlimited and playful way, and they are not able to experimentally explore their genitals.

The porn industry excludes female pleasure

In addition, when it comes to lust, male sexuality is usually at the forefront. “The porn industry teaches men that it’s natural to masturbate and enjoy it by women,” says Schiftan. In this one-sided representation, female satisfaction is often neglected or not shown at all.

According to the expert, three factors make it difficult for women who do not like their vaginas to allow or enjoy oral gratification.

1. You are afraid of smelling bad
Schiftan says many women remain worried even after they’ve just taken a shower. She advises women to take care of their own bodily fluids on a regular basis to overcome their aversion to their own sex. The expert says this means inserting your finger into the vagina and vulva at different stages of your cycle, and then sniffing. “The more a woman gets used to the consistency and smell, the more she can imagine that her sex partner has no problem with it.”

2. You are thinking about your partner
“When it comes to cunnilingus, women often assume that their partner finds the practice tiring, and after a few minutes they think it must be exhausted by now,” Schiftan says. The truth is, some take a while to be stimulated by vaginal stimulation. “If you feel pressured, you certainly don’t.” For this reason, the expert advises couples to discuss insecurities and develop a mutual trust, and if both people don’t feel like it, they can point it out during the act.

3. They believe it only benefits them.
According to Schiftan, many women feel that their spouses gain nothing from language work. “They think it’s selfish to sit back and let him do it.” The woman must have some degree of confidence that her arousal will also affect her sexual partner. Also, the woman can move her torso during cunnilingus instead of just lying there. “As a result, he not only becomes more interested in oral sex, but also increases his lust,” says the expert.