Separate – and for the children!

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Unfortunately, this attitude is very popular and is due to the gossip of conservative and ecclesiastical circles that propagate the “whole family” construct as the highest good. By this, only the structure is meant, and not the emotional and mental integrity of the victims. Constant frustration, verbal and physical abuse, alcohol abuse, secret romances all seem like a fair price to pay to keep this holy family alive.

However, if the couple agrees that the relationship would have ended long ago without children, then this is a good reason for parting. Not only do you impose on your children a real reality characterized by disappointment, coldness and aloofness, you also shape their future: your children will learn from you that partnership is necessarily something without love and joylessness and that you must endure its fate. Therefore, you are more likely to mimic your relationship later – just as you are probably already mimicking your parents’ relationship.

You are probably presenting yourself together as a loving and selfless service to your children. On the contrary, you will hurt her, and the best thing you can do is avoid the consequences of the breakup yourself. This is understandable, because most of them are painful and tiring – but does it legitimize spoiling childhood youth with arguments, whining, contempt and humiliation in front of them? Showing you over and over how awful it is to be around someone?

Breaking up is the best thing you can do for your children. And for each other.

Source: Blick