“Keep Shaking Hands With Your Daughters”

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It often happens that an abandoned partner stylizes himself as a victim of a terrible crime – sometimes for the rest of his life. It is also not uncommon for children to show solidarity with the parent in question and exclude the other.

In fact, dealing with a breakup is a human condition, and feeling angry, sad, and resentful for a while is even beneficial—these feelings need space. However, they should not get out of control to the point of influencing children, and they should never feel compelled to take sides.

Your ex-husband has had a thousand opportunities over the past six years to correct your daughters’ feelings. He also had
more than enough time to get help from a therapist to get his wounded pride under control. Instead, he seems to enjoy the role of victim so much that he shamelessly uses his own children to do so.

Unfortunately, there is no cure for such people. You will pay any price to please your poor little ego – as you can see, even the breakup between you and your eldest daughter is not too much for your ex-husband. On the contrary, he will see in this a just punishment for your heinous act of parting with him.

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. You can only worry about your happiness, continue to say hello to your daughters and wait until they grow up and form their own independent opinion. One day they will realize that their father is a vengeful, manipulative weakling who allowed and encouraged them to reject their own mother. This is no consolation. But a correction.

Source: Blick