Make a list of what you appreciate about her

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The problem is that the feelings we have for someone are not necessarily the same as our feelings for them. Loving someone is a simple and almost indestructible impulse, but getting along with him or her is complex and therefore fragile. This is not about sympathy and hormones, but about mutual understanding – and above all about compatibility: What do I need in a relationship? What can’t I accept? What are our common views and goals?

Until these questions are answered and applied ruthlessly, there is a great danger of being around someone you love and want to shoot at the same time. However, this interaction is confusing and unhealthy in the long run. Relationships exist to make us feel safe and understood.

The reason you don’t feel that way around your partner, or not often enough, is because you have to make too many compromises in the relationship. This means that the things you need to feel good are not available in sufficient quantities, while there are too many aspects that you cannot get used to at all desire.

So write down on a piece of paper what you need and what you hate, and invite your partner to do the same. Then compare the two lists. Maybe you’ve just never been honest about things like this before, and it takes you to a new level of intimacy. But it may also be that you are aware of your incompatibility – and then you should accept this and let go of each other. Despite all the love Or just because of this.

Source: Blick