“Your friend is a pasha”

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Well, men don’t want a partner who is out and about as she will inevitably meet other men and maybe have some fun with them. They prefer a woman who they can always rely on and who will also take care of the household!

Your friend appears to be a pasha. And you seem to be convinced that it is a woman’s business to serve a man. Or better, as if a significant part of you were convinced of it. The other part comes across it and feels it’s wrong. This part says: I don’t want to be that woman.

The part that objects and thinks that you should be that kind of woman probably originated in your childhood when your mother set an example for you to behave in a correspondingly submissive manner. What we observe in our parents we accept as truth and also as the law of love.

So, sit down and write down specifically what love means to you: What does a loving woman do? What should she do? What should she not do under any circumstances, what is she forbidden to do? Then ask yourself if you are convinced of all this because it is really true, or if it was more of your mother’s excuse.

Then write what kind of woman you want to be. What is she doing? What is she allowed to do, what is she allowed to do? And what should she do in the sense: what are her obligations to herself? Shouldn’t she do everything?
do to free yourself from the yoke under which you live? Perhaps your relationship is giving you a bizarre form of support. But bending has nothing to do with love. We like to call it that, but we also know that we lie about it.

Source: Blick