“They won’t understand me”, “Are you crazy?”, “I can’t afford to go in this…”, “I don’t wear skirts, at school they called me a rider and that I have crooked legs”, “I don’t wear sticky shirts, I’m fat”, “I don’t dress without a push-up, I have small breasts” – which of these have we not heard?
How much does what we wear affect the opinion of others? How strong is the “inner critic” developed in each of us, which prevents you from not only trying everything you want, but also prevents you from growing?
Meet my critic’s name is Lucy. It’s a creepy piece of shit, I’ll tell you that. She’s the one who still won’t give me permission to wear trendy culottes because she thinks my ankles are too thin, makes me faint before public appearances, laughs at my attempts to look younger by slipping me pictures of how ugly I am, and makes comparisons with fashion bloggers. He stops all attempts to create his own full-fledged online school of style, “because everything is already done long ago, and you still cram something in there, which, by the way, you don’t have at all.” .
In general, you understand that Lucy is a sharp and very straightforward woman. By the way, what’s your critic’s name? Introduce!
Sometimes there is some (but only some!) truth in all this moral self-torture. And sometimes it’s all unnecessary. Sometimes a reed woman comes to me for a style consultation and 50% of the time I try to understand where she is “fat” and why she wears shapeless hoodies. And all because someone somewhere said it looked bad. And subconsciously we perceive it at the level of “they don’t like us” – that’s all! Until now, this woman will not wear a tight pencil skirt, because, of course, she really wants to be loved, to be perceived as a person, appreciated and not criticized.
And some rascal Péťa from 5 “B” just once expressed his adolescent opinion, which is no longer current and perhaps never came close to reality. But the sediment remained and the style upgrade did not work. What do I suggest in this case? For such memories, take out your “suitcase without a handle” (it’s a shame to throw it away, inconvenient to carry), finally give it a good shake and throw it away!
Yes, just write your doubts, find yourself or your inner “Lucy” and throw away everything that is not yours.
In my long time working as a stylist, I have learned a few things that personally support me a lot when my eternally critical lady arrives… I realized that.
There are no wrong types of figures Carl, you just don’t know how to cook them! Seriously, every figure is easily corrected with simple visual tricks, so if you suddenly get better or just have a complex, then when you work on removing pies on the hips, learn to hide them with the right clothes (but not sweatshirts!).
Anyone can learn how to look great and help you – lots of style information on the internet and in magazines. “Observation” is everything to us.
If you don’t have enough time to master all the latest fashion trends, take care of the basics: a neat manicure (remember the principle “The simpler the woman, the harder the nails” and don’t flirt), clean hair, even skin and a friendly smile.
Even if you only have one dress in your wardrobe, you can look different all week by combining it with something else. On the contrary, mountains of things do not necessarily guarantee a variety of images. So, sorting out your wardrobe and mastering the skill of combinations can be very useful.
In general, if you meet my Lucy, tell her that I am on a business trip until the winter. Meanwhile, I’m going to walk my mules.