Can’t a woman just want sex?

Guys, we need to talk. Even if you keep threatening me that you never want to talk to me again. Via comment column. Yes, I’ve read them. And most of all I enjoy it. Except last time. Then I got a little angry. Not because you wanted more explicit descriptions of New Year’s Eve sex, or because you condemned my long boxy sentences – I really like them and I have no intention of letting them go because, just to clarify: it doesn’t matter how loud you’re messing around, I’m not going. Not today and not tomorrow.

I don’t mind if you get angry, that’s what the comment column is for. That’s what the new ones are for. That’s what columnists are for. I expected that, I can deal with that. If I can be your outlet on Friday for the frustration that has been building up all week and then needs to get out somewhere, that’s absolutely fine. Then that’s even good. I’d rather the frustration go out here than anywhere else. Real. We are in a safe zone. Do what’s right for you. I am open to criticism and generally relaxed.

I don’t want to spoil one thing though: I’m not a misogynist and I am to use women don’t. Women are not, as the comments said, a piece of meat to me.

First of all: How do you think?!? I told you I had sex at my house with a woman I met at a party. I didn’t say how it happened. Because I found it boring. you didn’t like it The story is nothing, I warned you: she didn’t have a train home yet, so to Chur, I said, not very imaginative, but also nice, so certainly not derogatory, logical with ulterior motives, but she had so did she, as she later told me she could have gone to her friend which she just didn’t say, i at least offered her to come to my place which she thought was a great idea. So we went to my house. The end. Or: the beginning. Depending on how you see it.

We both wanted the same thing. We both just wanted sex. Why am I the one using them?

Are you saying that because you’re implying that this woman wanted something different? That she actually wanted more? If so, isn’t that a bit sexist? Can’t a woman just want sex? No romance, just lust?

Or: Would your opinion be different if I told you that I wrote to her twice after that and she answered only briefly and then let the conversation fade away?

The verdict should be the same. Because it doesn’t change the fact that we had sex. It’s totally okay for her to do this. That she doesn’t want to write back and forth for a long time. We hadn’t decided to become WhatsApp friends. The only thing we agreed on was that we would have sex.

You complain that there isn’t enough sex in my column. I’ll tell you what: single men don’t have sex anymore. Sorry. Of all of us, I’d probably be the first to think it would be good if there was more sex in this column, that is, in my life.

Of course there are men who have more sex. Some are probably more charming than me. Others look better. And there are some, you know them, I know them, of course there are some who pretend to want something other than what they want. That can sometimes increase the odds, it’s no secret. When you clearly state that you don’t want a relationship, the options are minimized. Am I a misogynist because I don’t want a relationship? No! I’m not good at relationships. It’s better for me and women if I stay out of it, believe me.

Sina wanted a relationship, yes. But I never gave her hope. I didn’t persuade her to sleep with me. (Sorry again to anyone wanting more sex. Bad timing! If the column had started a few months earlier, I could have talked about one of those Sinas Night situations on Wednesdays every two weeks. Would have gotten boring at some point too , but overall: more sex.)

I would never, ever convince a woman, or worse, get a woman to sleep with me in any way. I have three sisters. They tattooed “Consent” on my chest. But even those who don’t have sisters shouldn’t. It’s disgusting!

I slept with Sina because she wanted me to. And because I wanted to. She has stated several times that she will only sleep with me until she finds something better. What right. which was ok. I can be an interim solution.

Shouldn’t I have slept with her again? Because I knew she wanted a relationship? She didn’t want a relationship with me. She wanted a relationship with “the right one”. Wouldn’t it be sexist to think I have to think for a woman? That I know better what’s good for them? That I have to “protect” them? Sina can easily decide for herself. The cards are face up on the table. I would never play a hidden game.

I don’t necessarily want to defend the man, I know there are many idiots among us. (I went to the cinema with Hanna last week to see “She said.” Great movie, terrible story. There are men who make you feel ashamed to be a man.) I also get angry when other men complain: Do you no longer know what one can do and say these days. Damn nonsense! All men know what to do and what not to do. It’s not rocket science! It just takes some common sense.

And no, I don’t understand women, sisters or not. I would never say I can empathize or somehow understand what it’s like to be a woman. But I would say that I have never despised a woman. That I’ve never done anything a woman wouldn’t want to do. That I’ve never “used” a woman. I don’t deserve any credit for that. It’s the other way around: men who don’t do this deserve criticism. Criticism that should be expressed much more openly and loudly.

But in this case, dear community, I am the wrong addressee.

I am open to any other criticism. Have fun in the comment column. Big Ben is watching you.

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