Sexologist explains: Can every woman experience vaginal orgasm?

“It can’t be said for sure, but for many women it is difficult to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone,” says Bischof. However, the claim that a woman cannot feel anything in the vagina is absurd. According to experts, the surface is not actually that sensitive, so most women are not interested in a man moving his penis in and out. “It is much more exciting when a woman or man makes rocking movements that stimulate the pressure and tension receptors in the vagina.” The area in front of the urethra, called the G spot, is also a very sensitive area.

No, Bishop says. “It is unrealistic to separate vaginal orgasm from clitoral orgasm because the clitoral parts are also stimulated during penetration.” But for many women, this is not enough to reach orgasm. You need additional stimulation of the clitoral head, known in technical language as the clitoral glans. This is the most sensitive part of the female genital area, where there are approximately 8,000 nerve endings.

“They are great for bringing the topic to the table and getting women curious,” the expert says. However, if it is claimed that every woman can orgasm vaginally, pressure to perform may also arise. “I find it sensitive,” says Bischof. “It can be frustrating and stressful if a woman follows the instructions step by step but it doesn’t work.” The problem, experts say, is that these guidelines do not take into account a woman’s individual strengths and abilities.

Bischof says you can find out which approach works for a woman in therapy. “I discuss with my patients what they are currently able to do, how they perceive their bodies, how they communicate with themselves and their gender.” All of these play a role in orgasm. According to the expert, the art of therapy is helping women stay motivated, practice and not give up. Bischof advises many women to experience orgasm through stimulation of the clitoral head but not to orgasm during sex. “One of the main reasons why women feel uncomfortable is because they don’t feel much during penetration,” says Bischof. At best, they are emotionally engaging because they are close to their partners. “If a woman learns to experience sexual excitement through the vagina, sexual intercourse becomes much more attractive.”