Fuck you, Finn!

Valentina was finally single again. Well, she was always single, but for a while there was another man next to me, Marcel. I didn’t think it was good that Marcel existed, but of course I couldn’t think that it was ‘not good’, because Valentina and I don’t have a monogamous relationship, we don’t have a relationship at all. which we both like, but we don’t have anything that is good either, but if there is a Horst or Marcel, then what we have is of course a little less good. For several reasons. She was often ‘busy’ when I wanted to meet her. She never said what she was doing, and she didn’t have to, I knew it anyway: Marcel. She was also ‘too tired’ sometimes. It was also clear to me why. I didn’t think the situation got better the longer it went on, but I’ve made peace with it.

And then Marcel was gone. Mid February. And I loved it. I don’t know why he suddenly disappeared, wrong, I didn’t know that at the time. At one point Valentina simply said that Marcel was a thing of the past, had a lot of time again and was significantly less “too tired”.

Marcel didn’t leave because Valentina thought the sex and everything else with me was much better. Marcel was away because she met Finn and Marcel was friends with Finn and all, as she said, “A bit complicated.” Finn looks – I clicked through his Instagram profile yesterday to the first photo from 2016 – like a mix of Franz Fischlin and the man from the series “Bear”, which all women, or perhaps only Hanna, love more. guy in the world. Finn seems slightly confused but serious at the same time, a great mix, but I admit, I understand why it works. Or I can understand what Valentina thinks about Finn.

At first I thought everything would remain the same, that is, a player would be replaced, but for me not much changes. Wrong thought. Unlike Marcel, Finn is not a passive type who occasionally fills in. Finn is in midfield. Finn is always and everywhere. Finn is ubiquitous, at least in Valentina’s universe. She talks about Finn non-stop. She now sees me more as her ally, her good friend, from whom she asks advice about men. If she knew what you would say, maybe she would consult ChatGPT instead of me, but she doesn’t know that.

Finn and Valentina have started sleeping recently, but rarely together. Because: Finn is in a relationship. And it just opened up. Everything new, everything has to be tackled slowly, but tackled, that’s it, or rather Valentina. Finn’s girlfriend knows about Valentina, Valentina is approved. The girlfriend is not jealous. Everything was discussed and discussed.

“There are needs that need to be met,” says Valentina. And you can’t satisfy that in a five-year relationship, because after five years nothing is new anymore, and that’s where she comes in, Valentina, she’s new, and actually Finn and his girlfriend don’t go well together, Finn has already hinted at that too, so he may be breaking up soon. I don’t think Finn will ever break up. Finn has everything he wants. But I’m not going to tell Valentina that. I don’t want to hurt her unnecessarily and maybe I’m wrong.

The sex with Valentina didn’t get worse because of Finn, which I think is great. What has changed is my mood. Finn is annoying. His pseudo-modern attitude is irritating.

Hanna said yesterday: “You’re jealous!” I don’t think so, except that jealousy is like being annoyed by a man sleeping with the woman you’re sleeping with, even if he’s also sleeping with someone else.

I know what you’re all going to say and I don’t agree with you. I ask ChatGPT.

So long,

Ben