Couples: sex life and fertility

It’s no secret that stress is man’s enemy. sexuality healthy and comfortable, but if you add to that the pressure to achieve a pregnancythe result can really become an obstacle in the couple’s sex life.

When couples In their search for a child, they go through several stages: with the initial enthusiasm, they continue to maintain relationship as they usually do. Then they go through adjusting those relationships to fertile daysand when they see that pregnancy is not easily achieved, they increase the frequency to achieve it.

In this last stage you start planning frustration for not achieving the desired goal, and what was fun and exciting becomes unappetizing and even unsatisfying in the context of planned sexuality.

“Passion and spontaneity the initial one may disappear as time passes and is gone news. At the sexual level, starting from the sixth month, stress levels and anxiety that the meeting brings with it begin to increase and in the medium or long term can turn into an appearance sexual dysfunctions“explains Dr. Susana Rabadán, a gynecologist at the Valencia Institute for Infertility in Madrid.

In men, changes in erection most often occur, premature ejaculationwhile in women a reduced desireimpossibility of orgasm or even discomfort or pain from stress which the work can generate, as well as the reduction in sexual response in both. All this is motivated because, in search of pregnancy unsuccessfully, sexual intercourse is increasingly mechanized and planned around ovulationwhich causes progressive loss of libido and anticipatory anxiety.

“Desire is a human sexual response, in which parasympathetic systemwhich regulates behaviors that depend on human beingthat is, the unwilling ones,” adds Dr. Rabadán.

“The problem arises when we add the imposition of a relationship, so to speak, to something that is naturally instinctive. Here sympathetic branch, which regulates volunteers. And these two systems work like river dams, they cannot be active at the same time if we want them to be in functioning“, he says.’

If the desire is influenced by the constant planning of sexuality, it needs to be reactivated in order to restore the erotic dynamics of the couple. Communication and, in some cases, professional intervention are key to releasing these blockages.

“And what sometimes happens is that we end up having more and more relationships without desire, with all that that entails both on the level of sexual response and on the mental and emotional level,” he points out.