Couples Therapy: Revitalizing Love

February 14th is upon us, and the celebration is limited to the routine and formal exchange of gifts? That day, which used to be expected and special, today you only celebrate with dinner outside without much enthusiasm and conviction?

Relationship of couple suffer ups and downsit goes through different phases and can sometimes be undermined for various reasons, from routinejealousy, sexual problems or bad communication until the reappearance of conflicts and the lack of tools to solve them. For this reason, one or both partners may feel that love is on the wane.

Sometimes, the appearance of a third person, who “flies over” the relationship, attracts and influences one of the partners. members and taking him away from his couplecan tip over relationshipeven without causing disbelief, if that situation is not resolved and resolved satisfactorily.

When the “third party” is therapeutic

However, there are cases in which the intervention of a “third party” can be the solution to a relationship with problems, if that third party, instead of a possible love rival, is a qualified and specialized psychologist to whom the couple goes regularly. . mutual agreement on starting psychotherapy.

“Psychological intervention that seeks to help the couple can mark before and after coexistence and help you stay in control during the change phase,” says psychologist Pilar Conde, technical director of Clínicas Origen (https://clinicasorigen.es).

Explain that moments of change, such as moving into a shared apartment, changing jobs, the birth of a babyraising children or diseases parents, are very important for the future of the relationship and may require the intervention of “a third party that would help them weave their individual values ​​and their conception of life together.”

“In these moments of difficulty, the couples therapist exercises a unbiased supporthelping to raise awareness of certain practice established needs should be modified for the benefit of the couple,” says Conde.

Conde points out, in this sense, that it is for the former first lady NOWMichelle Obama, like this psychological intervention It was a “before and after” of her cohabitation with her husband, Barack, and helped them maintain control over the couple during a whirlwind period of change that coincided with the president’s victory and their assumption of office. White House.

When asked by EFE if this species is psychotherapy can help reactivate a depressed love or asleepConde answers in the affirmative, noting that “exactly one of the goals of this therapy is to reconnect the couple.”

“This reconnection leads to emergence feelings who were present in the phases where the relationship was going well, or for both of them to build a new way of feeling, which is significant enough for both of them, to continue their relationship. life together“, explain.

Participation therapist It takes place only during the sessions, and then “the members of the couple have to apply what they learned in these sessions in their daily life, so it is important that both parties commit to the therapy”, as he explains.

In order for the therapy to give good results, it is important that the couple comes with an “attitude of tandem, change, flexibility and from openingbeige rivalry nor to look for who wins or who loses, but understanding that it is done for welfare both members”, this psychologist points out.

In addition to problems due to life changes, couples often go to a therapist to solve unpleasant situations related to routine, lack of communicationtrust or commitment to another, as well as difficulty in conflict resolutionthis psychologist believes.

To solve these problems, sessions work on aspects such as skills and Techniques communicate, express oneself appropriately without aggressivenessplan pleasant joint activities, redistribute responsibilities within the pair and return focus to positive aspects another and strengthen them, as he explains.

It is also working on useful psychotherapeutic tools to improve conflict resolution, coexistencehe distribution of rolesthe expression and receiving affectioncriticism management, emotional connection and free time management, Conde points out.

Explain that each session begins with a brief review of the agreements established in the previous session. therapeutic meetingand then continue working with achievement-oriented tools Goals endings established by the couple themselves.