Expert advocates openness: When porn consumption becomes dangerous for relationships

Secrecy is tiring

According to Bachmann, it is neither consumption nor frequency that creates problems in a relationship; rather, it is the secret consumption of adult films in most cases. Trying not to be exposed drains energy, says Bachmann. “The guilt some men feel about this can lead them to be less present during sex with their partners.”

According to sex therapist Brun del Re, it matters whether a person consumes pornography only once a month or every day. “Anyone who watches porn every day practically does not have time to have bisexuality,” he said in an interview with Blick. This means that the focus of sexuality is increasingly shifting to the virtual world.

Pornography makes you lazy

Martin Bachmann sees it this way too. She says pornography can become a burden if a man forgets how to express his desires in real life. “Sexual desire can be satisfied in just a few clicks while watching porn. Couple sex requires a certain level of commitment.

Brun del Re knows many cases of women who knew about their partner’s porn consumption and who say that when they had sex with him, they never knew if he was with them or if they had another image in mind. Women were afraid that the man would be more interested in porn actresses than them. Additionally, actresses in porn films are often presented in a derogatory and degrading manner.

Bachmann still recommends addressing the issue openly. Talking about porn removes the threat. “The man can express his point of view, and the woman can express her opinion and ask questions when she is unsure.”

Release your stress without your partner

Bachmann adds that it often happens in relationships that both people do not want to have sex at the same time. At such moments, masturbation is a good way to relieve stress without putting pressure on your partner. “Pornography plays a role for many men.”

Bachmann also pays attention to pornography when it comes to self-reflection. “Consumers can learn more quickly what they are and are not interested in during sex.”