Fear of smelling bad: Why do many women dislike oral satisfaction?

Schiftan says the reason for the uncertainty is that young women repeatedly come into contact with their vaginas in a negative way. “Either because it itches or bleeds, or because they say it’s scary to touch it with your fingers.” The expert says that, unfortunately, girls are often unable to devote themselves to their bodies in an impartial and pleasurable way and to explore their genital areas experimentally.

The porn industry crowds out female desire

Additionally, when it comes to desire, male sexuality is generally at the forefront. “The porn industry teaches men that it is natural to be verbally satisfied and enjoy women,” says Schiftan. Although this rather one-sided representation is not intended to serve as a model, it is often used in this way.

Three things make it difficult for women who dislike their vaginas to allow or enjoy oral gratification, according to the expert.

Schiftan says many women continue to have fears even after they’ve just showered. To eliminate disgust towards one’s own gender, she advises women to regularly examine their own body fluids. This means putting your finger on the vagina and vulva at different stages of the cycle and then smelling it, the expert says. “The more a woman gets used to its consistency and smell, the more she can imagine that her sex partner does not have a problem with it.”

“When it comes to oral sex, women often assume that their partner finds the practice tiring and thinks their partner must be exhausted after just a few minutes,” says Schiftan. The truth is that for some people, it takes a certain amount of time to become aroused by stimulation of the vagina. “If you feel pressured, you won’t want to do it.” Therefore, the expert advises couples to discuss their insecurities and develop mutual trust, so that if both parties do not feel any desire, they can make it clear during the act.

According to Schiftan, many women believe that their partner masturbating them with the tongue does not benefit them. “They think it’s selfish to sit back and let it do its thing.” The woman must have some degree of trust that her excitement will also arouse her sexual partner. Additionally, the woman can move her body during cunnilingus instead of just lying there. “This not only gets him more involved in oral sex, but also increases his desire,” says the expert.