Taking time: is it good or bad?

Taking time out in a romantic relationship can be a good tool in some cases if used purposefully, in an agreed-upon manner and with clear limits between the couple.

Taking time means space to think, to have time for yourself, to think about what doesn’t work, what can be changed, according to experts.

“On many occasions we think about taking time off because we want to quit relationship and we don’t dare to say it directly to the other person, or we think that the other person will be less damaged that way,” emphasizes psychologist and sexologist Ruth González.

However, if they do it for these reasonsthey will end up doing more damage to the couple, because it “open door” prevents you from grieving properly, leaving the other person (if they want to continue the relationship) in a state uncertainty and remains vigilant in case it returns.

“It can also be addictive in a relationship, especially if it’s based on comings and goings,” adds u publish informative on his Instagram profile (@ruth_sexologa).

When would it be appropriate to take some time?

– If you need to distance yourself to think about some specific problems in the relationship you are creating questions or difficulties and from the outside we can see it differently.

– If the above happens, see how they feel without that person. If you miss each other or what you miss are only moments of connection.

The expert points out that, if they decide to do so, they must discuss the reasons why they need that time. “Setting a time limit to talk again and assess the situation, it doesn’t work to make it indefinite.”

Also, make some rules about what they can and can’t do during that time: see other people or have some kind of contact with each other.

Experts say that making this decision will depend on many factors factors and you have to have a good discussion about what you are going to do.