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7 Things Not To Do When Dealing With Someone Who Drinks A Lot: My Colleague Drinks Too Much – What Can I Do?

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The party is definitely over when someone falls asleep with a glass in hand.
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He asks the same question three times and everyone laughs when they aren’t. Heinz Lengacher (60) says these could be signs that someone is no longer able to control their alcohol consumption. She has been working in addiction counseling for 20 years and since 2014 has been the head of the regional center “Berner Gesundheit” in the Bernese Oberland.

If someone is close to you, it’s often easier to handle conspicuous behavior. On the other hand, if the people in question are mostly colleagues you meet while going out, in bars or restaurants, you can go very wrong. In other words: where you yourself like to drink a lot.

Here are 7 things not to do when dealing with coworkers who are too extreme to be fun anymore:

  • Speak when the person is drunk
    “Who knows if he’ll remember the next day,” says addiction counselor Heinz Lengacher. Except for the fact that you can’t have a deep conversation while drunk. Basically, this applies: Take a sober moment to talk to someone about their behavior.
  • Telling someone directly that they are drinking too much
    Lengacher says it’s important, in principle, to show your appreciation to the person concerned and not criticize them directly. “You are friends after all.” The best way to do this is to create sentences that describe your own observations and feelings. For example: “I’ve noticed that you always drink more than any of us, and at some point I don’t find it interesting to talk to you anymore.” Or: “I’m worried about you because it’s important to me that you’re well.”
  • keep a monologue
    According to Lengacher, it is important that the person involved has a say in the conversation as often as possible. “How do you experience this?” You can ask. And continue: “Did I get that right, you…?”
  • Thinking it’s over after a single conversation
    Lengacher says you have to see an idea before it can grow. This means you’re always offering to talk or say something like: “It’s been a bit too much today, do you want to talk about it again some other time?” As a group, you can split conversations so that everyone says something and not one at a time.
Anyone who wakes up in a Christmas wreath the morning after the Christmas party should perhaps question their alcohol consumption.
  • don’t drink anymore
    Lengacher says that suddenly completely abstaining from alcohol while going out to set a good example doesn’t help. “The person who is presumed to overconsume is probably feeling pressured.” Better to be slimmer and try to order something non-alcoholic between beer, wine and cocktails. Or you say you should be able to drive later. Lengacher: “Auto justification always works.”
  • waiting too long
    Lengacher says the sooner you address consumer behavior, the better the chance the person involved has to change it. Therefore, it is not a good idea to wait for someone to get help. “If someone comes to counseling on the advice of a friend, the chances are no worse.”
  • Ignore your own limits
    Lengacher says that if you find that the situation isn’t improving, you should avoid it getting you down too much. Especially when the other person regularly lies to me to cover up their addiction. At this point, the person concerned should be advised to seek professional help at the latest. Lengacher: “At some point there may come a time when you have to end a friendship or at least question it in order to protect yourself.”

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